Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Is Chivalry Dead?

Granted I am married and have been with my husband only for over 10-years but I dont think Chivalry is dead at all. I can remember times before him (*gasp*) of guys I dated and how things went. I remember car doors being opened for me first (keyless entry wasn't really around much). I can remember pulling out of chairs when going out to eat. I can remember getting flowers or a gift for no reason but to make me feel special. I remember being made feel like a princess and while I wanted to be independent, I loved this. I still do. I feel that chivalry is very much alive but it's just today's women that kill it. How can a woman be so independent and then expect to become a "damsel in distress"? You can't have it both ways. 


I always loved to be taken care of. I like being made to feel important and special and "rescued" if you will. I in turn love to make that special someone know how appreciated they are. 


If you think chivalry is dead, I think you need to take another look at yourself and how you LET people treat you and how you come off. I think instinctively, guys want to be the "knight in shining armor" and the "the protector." I think instinctively, girls want to be taken care of and be nurturers. As of late, society has made it seem more important for women to be their own person and stand on their own. While this is great, you cant be self-reliant and strong, and expect someone to be able to take car of you - it's contradictory and confusing.


So if you are one of the people who think chivalry is dead, take a look at whom you are dating. Take a look at yourself and what vibe you give off. Take a look at where you are meeting these people.


Chivalry is alive if it's allowed to be.


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3 comments:

phenom said...

I blame the Womynists from PCU. :D

James'momma said...

agree, totally.
I can be both...and thankfully i have even more of a strong willed husband that knows what i need to do for myself. :)

Samantha Lee said...

I completely agree.

I think most women tend to want the feeling of protection, self worth and nurturing from their mate. I think a lot of women (myself sometimes included) feel that we need to be so independent and equal to men, that it emasculates men to some degree. It is okay to be independent, but you should be able to be nutured and respected at the same time....most people don't realize how they are treating their partner, until they sit back & analyze it...or it becomes too late.